Parents: This May Be The Reason Your Kids Are Impatient

Author of 'How Much Is Too Much? Raising Likeable, Responsible, Respectful Children--from Toddlers to Teens--in an Age of Overindulgence', Dr. David Bredehoft gives advice to parents on how to raise independent and patient children.

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"They don't develop the kind of skills that they need to cope as an adult later on."

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Parents today really seem to go to great lengths to prevent their kids from being uncomfortable in any way. How does this produce impatience in children? We're talking about attitudes and I think, how does that unwillingness to allow our children to bare and learn to grow through discomfort help breed a poor attitude and especially impatience? - I think that's a real interesting question. You know, first of all, I'd like to back up just a minute and you know, it really, this whole business comes from a good heart. And so I want to keep that front and center. I really think that parents, you know they really love their kids. They are trying to do things out of love. They just kind of go overboard and one of the ways that they do it is prevent their child from ever feeling discomfort if they're experiencing any kind of discomfort at all. I see it a lot today, maybe more than before. They run in and try to rescue and bail them out, and so forth. And the problem I see with that is, first of all, you need to take care of them if there's going to be an issue if there's tissue damage there. Absolutely get in there. And you're the adult, take care of the situation. So many times, parents over react to uncomfortableness by rescuing them. And what happens then is, the child learns that whenever they have a problem, they get the hired gun. You know? The parent has stepped in to take care of them. They also don't learn how to think through and address problems. They don't develop the kind of skills that they need to cope as an adult later on. We're also seeing that in colleges and universities. I just recently heard a report that found a quarter of the college students entering in college are struggling with some sort of issue and need some kind of psychological attention and that's greater than ever before. I don't know if it's connected to parents always bailing them out, but I would guess that has something to do with it.